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Why “Battle of the Sexes” within the Black Community is crazy.
The battle of the sexes in the Black community is a long-standing issue. It has caused great harm over the years. This conflict between Black men and women has caused division. It has hurt progress and unity. To fix this widespread problem, we must: 1. Examine its roots. 2. Understand its effects. 3. Find ways to build a stronger, balanced community. This struggle is rooted in deep gender stereotypes and myths about traditional roles. Society pressures black men to be dominant and unemotional. Black women must be submissive and nurturing. These narrow, harmful expectations favor men and undervalue women. They create a power imbalance. Society and the media have fueled…
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5 Reasons why the Black Community needs to reconnect with Courting.
Courting. It is a word that you do not hear today. In fact, most of us either do not know the word and if we are only familiar with the term, it is because of our elders. As time progressed, we transitioned from “courting” to “Netflix n chill”, “cut some”, and “Chillin’ at the house”. Are the days of dating with a righteous purpose over? Is everybody just horny beasts that only want to fukk? When did we lose touch with the art of courting? 1. Abstinence is your friend We have forgotten how essential courting is when searching for a serious partnership. Sex is taken so lightly. We do…
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Black Love and Our Fascination with the Obamas
There is a dearth of’ Black’ Love stories. The Obamas “Southside”, is a Hollywood tale chosen for people to celebrate. It’s dressed up for urban appeal with the integration of the ‘southside’ designation. It’s almost akin to spending a smidgen of attention on the sister with shattered ‘self – esteem’. You’ve bought her. Hook, line, and sinker. She believes in you. You represent her dreams. Backhanded scraps are a distraction. Simply for entertainment. Having full knowledge that the largest target as a threat to ‘white supremacy’ IS the healthy, strong ‘black’ union, or family. The mainstream has manufactured a model of ‘blackness’. One that poses no risk to the privilege…
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Please don’t call me “Sexy” if you don’t know me…
Whenever someone uses the term “sexy” I automatically hear the word “sex”. I don’t hear the “y”ending. Whenever a guy that I do not know approaches me and he says something like, “Hey sexy.” Or “How you doing, sexy?”, even though there may be complimentary intentions, it does not come across that way. I can’t speak for all women because we are all wired so differently, but I can speak for me. I personally get very uncomfortable if a stranger says this to me. If you call me “sexy” upon meeting versus expressing interest in wanting to know my name, I have no choice but to think that you have…
