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Alpha to What?
A man calling himself an “alpha male” is one of the quickest ways to make me side eye him. Not because confidence is a problem, but because announcing dominance is not dominance. It is marketing wrapped up in pussypoppin’. Better yet, it’s ego dressed up as k9 leadership. If you have to label yourself, you are already negotiating your own insecurity. Real strength does not need a press release. When people say “alpha male,” they usually mean the leader, the provider, the protector, the one who is respected. The problem is that the men who talk the most about being alpha rarely show the traits they claim to possess. They…
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Performative parenting Is NOT real parenting
There is a kind of person who loves the idea of being a parent. They love how it sounds, how it looks on them, and how people soften when they say “my kids.” The title comes with applause and assumptions. Folks hear it and start handing out credit like parenting is a vibe instead of a verb. But the real version of parenting, the one that requires consistency, sacrifice, humility, and boring responsibility, is the part they avoid. The part that does not get posted. The part that lives in doctors’ offices, school meetings, daily routines, and hard seasons, when nobody is clapping. Performative parenting is simple to define. It…
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I am NOT your spiritual janitor
There is a fine line between being a good friend and becoming everybody’s spiritual adviser on demand. For a long time, I did not see that line clearly. I just noticed a pattern. People were drawn to me when they were in crisis. They wanted a word, a reading, a way to see their situation differently, some kind of spiritual clarity. On the surface, it looked like connection. Underneath, it started to feel like some people thought they had unlimited access to my spirit just because I cared. My spiritual life is not a cute hobby. It is a serious, living part of who I am. It took work, discipline,…
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Defunding the Public: The Political War on CPB and the Future of PBS and NPR
The Corporation for Public Broadcasting (CPB) is being dissolved, and this is not an internet rumor or clickbait. On January 5, 2026, CPB announced its board voted to dissolve the organization, bringing to a close a fifty-eight-year institution that helped hold up America’s public media system. CPB matters because it was a central structure in how public broadcasting functioned nationwide. CPB was created by the Public Broadcasting Act of 1967, a moment in American political history when lawmakers treated education and civic access as something the public deserved to have, even when it was not profitable. The law set CPB up as a nonprofit corporation designed to support non-commercial, educational…
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Spiritual Bullying in Plain Sight: The Gospel of Control
A lot of people confuse faith with control. That is why Christian extremism and Hebrew Israelite extremism feel like walking contradictions to me, because both claim they are rooted in love, humility, and righteousness, but when something does not mirror their worldview, what shows up is not peace. It is superiority, entitlement, and this compulsive need to police everybody else’s life. I am not talking about every Christian or every person who studies Hebrew Israelite thought; I am talking about the extremist energy, the loudest version, the one that treats disagreement like disrespect and difference like a threat. A current example is the Buddhist monks doing the Walk for Peace.…
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Domestic Violence, Black Women and the Algorithm That Loves Chaos
I keep seeing the same sick pattern, and I am done pretending it is normal. On social media, especially TikTok, domestic violence against Black women is being served up as entertainment. What makes it even more twisted is the way these same platforms pretend to protect us. We censor basic words like “murder” and “death.” We bend our language into strange shapes to keep a video from being taken down or shadow-banned. You cannot say certain words plainly even when you are talking about real events, real loss, and real grief. But in that same scroll, you can open the app and watch a Black woman being abused in real…
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Stop Calling It Truth: It Is Control
I have been holding my tongue about this for a long time, and I am no longer doing so. Atlanta, especially around Decatur, has a Black Hebrew Israelite scene that consistently shows the worst kind of conscious community behavior, the kind that looks spiritual on the outside but feels like control once you get close. This is not me attacking people for reading the Bible or wanting structure in their lives. My issue is the culture I have watched play out again and again, where arrogance gets called truth, group loyalty gets called righteousness, and Black women end up carrying the harm in silence. A post on my timeline finally…
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Are We Watching Consumerism Die or Just Shape Shift?
I remember the first time I really sat with the word consumerism. It was not a teacher. It was Lauryn Hill in my headphones. That “Consumerism” track felt like she was standing in the middle of America with a bullhorn, listing every way this country chews people up and spits out products. It hit like church with drums. A whole sermon inside a song. That is Lauryn for you. She was already warning us about something we still do not like to name. America does not just like to shop. This place operates on the principle that you should always strive for more. More clothes, more gadgets, more status, just…
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Not Another Data Center
eWhen I saw the headline about Microsoft building yet another data center near Atlanta, my first reaction was not excitement about jobs or innovation. I thought about water and power. Then, I thought about the same kinds of communities that always seem to get picked to carry the burden for everybody else’s comfort. What does it mean for Georgia to become a playground for more of them? A data center is a warehouse full of computers that never sleep. It is the physical body of the internet. Your pictures, your email, your bank app, your favorite shows, your cloud backups, your work files, this article… they all live on servers…
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The Gender War Is A Psy-Op And Black People Are Failing The Test
There is a psychological experiment playing out in front of our faces every single day on every single app. I call it the gender war experiment. It is the constant back and forth between Black men and Black women. The bashing. The think pieces. The clips about who brings what to the table. The “modern woman” talk. The jokes about “dusty men.” The nonstop stitching of pain and calling it content. I am not saying other groups do not have problems between men and women. What I am saying is this: When I log in to social media, my timeline is not flooded with white people tearing each other apart…
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Staying “For The Kids” Is Not Noble. It Is Selfish AF
People love to say they are staying in a relationship “for the kids.” They say it like it makes them noble. Like dragging yourself through the same misery every day is a sacrifice that your children are going to thank you for later. I do not agree at all. Staying in a toxic relationship for the sake of the children is not only wrong, but it is selfish as fuck. You are not just choosing that life for yourself. You are choosing it for them. You are choosing the energy they wake up in, the way they see love, and the blueprint they will carry into their own relationships later.…
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The Lie Behind “I Want to Take Care of You”
I want to take care of you.” That line sounds beautiful until you have lived through what it really means, or if you are naive as fukk. It is one of those phrases that carries a double meaning. On the surface, it sounds romantic and protective. But underneath, it can be the first sign that control is being disguised as love. The first time I heard it, I believed it. I was younger and still thought that a man wanting to take care of me was something I was supposed to be grateful for. I thought it meant that he saw me as special. I thought it meant that he…
