“Bitch.” It isn’t cute… It isn’t uplifting or flattering. It is actually pretty degrading. I would say that I grew out of using the ‘B’ word as a term of endearment. However, some women are older than me who use the term “bitch” quite loosely. I am forced to think this is an issue that is rooted more towards self-image, disregard for self-respect, and no love. When I speak this word, it is with the intent of its creation. If I call you “bitch,” we have a problem. If I call you a “bitch,” I do not respect you and have no regard for your life. I don’t use the word as often these days.
I saw a visual perspective on bitches from Lupe Fiasco. His song “Bitch Bad” was an all-out attack on the word. That was when it all clicked for me. Lupe gave us several mind blowing view points on the word in different contexts. Lupe brilliantly made you question… “Why?”
“Bitch Bad,
Woman good,
Lady better,
They misunderstood”
Again, black women, why? Better yet, how did we get here and why is it that we treat this word as a double entendre? It is crazy that more often than “a lil bit,”, a woman will call her homegirl a “bitch” out of “love” and call her a “bad bitch” if she has it going 
on, yet get mad if a man says, “Ey, bitch, lemme holla at you.” This word has nothing to do with positive energy or the Kundalini rising… The word isn’t a twisted, white supremacist interpretation of a word that was known throughout history to civilize, cultivate, and grow. When this word is used, in context, towards a human being, it’s clear what it means. A bitch is a female dog and one thing you can count on a female dog to do, if she hasn’t been fixed, is go in heat, have litters of youngins, and…
Not I…nor any of the women in my social circles. I enjoy exchanges with beautiful women. We represent ourselves and one another in a highly respectable manner. Referring to myself or my home girl as a “dog in heat” will never be complimentary to the woman that I am. My mission in writing this article is not to go on a crusade to end the usage of this word so casually. I just want women who speak so loosely to simply think about the true definition and ask, “Why?” How does this apply to your life?