Please don’t call me “Sexy” if you don’t know me…
Whenever someone uses the term “sexy” I automatically hear the word “sex”. I don’t hear the “y”ending. Whenever a guy that I do not know approaches me and he says something like, “Hey sexy.” Or “How you doing, sexy?”, even though there may be complimentary intentions, it does not come across that way. I can’t speak for all women because we are all wired so differently, but I can speak for me. I personally get very uncomfortable if a stranger says this to me. If you call me “sexy” upon meeting versus expressing interest in wanting to know my name, I have no choice but to think that you have sized me up in your head in a sexual manner. If you have done that, that should be your business. I cannot and will not attempt to control anyone’s thoughts.That is not my point in writing this post. I have a huge problem being greeted like this. Do millennial women not check for terms like: “beautiful”, “gorgeous”, or hell a simple “Miss Lady”? How about you ask me for my name? Better yet, here you go: “Hello Miss Lady.”, “What is your name, gorgeous?” ” If I am approached by a guy and he cannot come up with another adjective besides “sexy”, not only will I not give him the time of day, I’ll cut the conversation short as quickly and politely as I can. There is no point in being all extra and rude. Decline and keep it moving respectfully.
I often times say that when it comes down to a lot of things, especially dating, I am classic and old-fashioned. I just can’t get with the new-age way of doing a lot of things. For instance, a woman getting on her knee and asking her guy for his hand in marriage…No sir, no ma’am… Not MY thing. However, if you have done that, go girl…Do you BOO BOO. It seems these days there is a lot of gender roles switching. If that is what the world is on then…OK WORLD…I am just cut from a different cloth, I guess. There are just some things that I feel that are meant to be classic and old-fashioned. The way you greet a lady is one of those things.
I wonder if I’m the only female that thinks this way. Am I buggin’ ? If I am out and about minding my business, and doing whatever, I have no problem being approached by a guy, even though I normally do not make new friends. However if you speak to me I will speak back. I will acknowledge your presence. If you speak to me, don’t call me “sexy” in opposition to asking me my name and please do not assume that I take that as a compliment coming from a complete stranger. You have to watch people. Nobody over here is trying to be the star of an episode of Forensic Files…
