It seems like it’s always our folks that overly care about things such as this. We are notorious for openly debating and judging minuscule topics that truly lead to ego clashes and pointless debates among social circles everywhere. This week Lori Harvey is no exception. Forget about these food shortages or high gas prices killing our pockets and jeopardizing our livelihood. Let’s talk about a 25-year-old woman choosing her right to decline marriage for the single life because God knows there is nothing more important than what Lori Harvey is deciding to do with her cooch these days. 🙄
What I don’t understand is the unhealthy obsession with black women. Yes, this is coming from a sista.. what we do, who we do, and whether or not we are considered “high value” (the dumbest term I have ever heard. The non-existent “value” point system is the mother of all jokes) seems to be at the top of the conversation when black women are the topic. What’s more disconnecting and disheartening is this silent pseudo-black woman list is composed of things like how many humans have traveled through our birth canals, looks (in every way imaginable), net worth, etc. I’m not saying the other groups don’t have hierarchal standards within their own set, what I am saying is obvious:
We are already a marginalized group that continues to further marginalize ourselves with a dumb-ass conversation like this. This is worse than niggas going toe to toe over colorism, whicho overgrown asses!
–BlaqKharma said that shit LOUD AF
Can someone explain to me the point? What do these conversations serve outside of gossip and stroking one’s ego? Since Lori Harvey is trending more than inflation and actual newsworthy news, here are my thoughts on her, her breakup with Michael B. Jordan, and FOLKS! I plan to move on after this post because I said what I said.
1st thang 1st on Lori Harvey: Shawty is 25 years old…
Lori Harvey just turned 25 years old in January of this year(2022). Why is there so much pressure placed upon her to marry someone right now? Not to mention, this person is 10 years older than her and has had more time to live his life and establish himself both as an independent man and within his career.
In my personal opinion, Lori Harvey is 25 years old. Live your life. Establish your own independence without a man or your parent’s assistance. Test yourself as a young adult who is blossoming into a full-blown grown-ass woman (adulthood really hits at 30 in my personal opinion). See what you are made of. Learn your own personal power before you decide to marry anyone.
And another thing…
If you decide that marriage is not for you in this lifetime, good. There is nothing wrong with deciding that something is not for you and not taking that route. Everything is not for everybody and that is okay. Just keep it real. There is also no harm in not wanting the same things that society has programmed us to want. I can’t help but think, “imagine if more people honored their gut/discernment and listened?” I wonder, would the masses be happier if she did decide to marry, push out a couple of babies, and not be fulfilled. Did anyone ever stop to think if she even envisioned that for herself ever? Nope. What y’all are doing to Lori Harvey is the same as demonizing a woman who chooses not to have children. THAT’S HER PREROGATIVE.
Everyone does not want to be a husband or wife.
What is more troubling to me is the disgusting responses that I have seen from people in regards to Lori Harvey splitting from Michael B Jordan. As if gas prices and supply shortages were enough to worry about, let’s add Lori Harvey’s pussy and what she’s doing with it to the list. That by far surpasses anything that’s going on right now that we consider to be of any kind of importance. Everybody wants to be so far DEEP in Lori’s pussy, nobody is paying attention to these unprecedented changes that are being made in gun legislation. This is worse than when Clinton was back in office and they keep drilling the gun crisis of the 90s in our head… That is a whole ‘nother post for another day. You can watch a throwback MTV special about it here.
Marriage has become some sort of silent “end-all-be-all” it seems like whenever we speak on love and relationships. So many people ask the question “If you are not dating for marriage, what are you dating for?” A woman like me who isn’t interested in marriage will tell you, “genuine companionship”. I am an independent woman who established herself in her 20’s. I took that pivotal decade of my life to live, learn, make plenty of mistakes, and see what I was made of. As someone who is heading towards 40, I can honestly say that marriage is not for me and I do not feel as though I am missing anything in my life because I have taken that option off the table.
The Relationship from a Public Relation Standpoint.
It’s almost weird to sit and watch these men dog out Lori Harvey for being young, dating, and saying what she does not want for her life right now. The double standards are the most sickening part. The masses didn’t have this much smoke when Stephan Jackson left his fiancee at the alter… Furthermore, I will also say this. In my personal opinion, I never really believed that this was a real relationship. Everything about this screamed “contract” and “business” to me. Everything from the weird nicknames to how social media seemingly forced them on us as a new couple to them falling off the face of the earth within six months after establishing that they were together. I think this relationship was done specifically to build careers and to get Michael B Jordan back in the good graces of black women.
It was never a secret that the Killmonger actor was rarely seen with a black woman on his arm. Don’t believe me, go back and Google his previous relationships. It grew to the point where black women began to notice this and it rubbed them wrong. The last thing that you want as a talented actor and sex symbol(society said that) is for a huge chunk of your main core audience to rescind their support because they don’t like who you are dating. What’s the best way to get back in their good graces? You hire the most popular beautiful black woman at the time contractually. Then, give the people a little bit of PDA in a couple of whack nicknames. Work a few red carpets together and boom. Michael B Jordan is back in good graces because we see him publically loving on a sista. Make no mistake about it Lori Harvey’s stock went up and down at the same time. You can’t make this shit up.
The split between Lori Harvey and Michael B. Jordan looks like contract fulfillment to me. This agreement has also seemed to come with extra perks at the end as well. Michael B. Jordan can continue on to date his white women and/or exoticals. This time, he is excused because people (mainly black men) are now saying that when he did date a black woman, she didn’t want to settle down with her 25-year-old-ass… Lori is now free to openly date whichever rapper, entertainer, or athlete that she chooses next.
Michael B Jordan made his directorial debut with Creed III and Lori just dropped a new skincare line and here we are talking about them. This breakup of Michael B. Jordan and Lori Harvey was a Public Relations GOLD MINE.
In conclusion:
I wish y’all were this over-analytical about them damn covid shots when they first introduced it. Nobody thought critically or even questioned anything… It seems like we have wired our brains backward. In the “black” community, it seems like we are more interested in arguing about marriage and criticizing as if our asses don’t wreak of filth from other shit… I will not be addressing this again. I have a garden to tend to and products to make.
BlaqKharma is a devoted mother, artist, and entrepreneur. You can get her RAW perspective here about any and everything under the sun. You can also purchase her vegan personal care products and original art @ flowersnflames.com
by BlaqKharma · June 10, 2022
Lori Harvey just turned 25 years old in January of this year(2022). Why is there so much pressure placed upon her to marry someone right now? Not to mention, this person is 10 years older than her and has had more time to live his life and establish himself both as an independent man and within his career.
Everyone does not want to be a husband or wife.
