Where ‘Giving as Good as You Get’ Goes Wrong

“Giving as good as you get” is a quality concept. When you are returning beauty and generosity, this works. When it comes to harsh words, however, this concept can be dangerous. Hurt people will hurl barbs at a target with relentless rapid fire. Anger can trigger some of the most brutal tongue lashings. In my experience, I have learned from many persons who were ‘fly at the mouth’. Silence is golden. Often times I did […]

The National Anthem: Star Spangled Slavery

The National anthem, or Star Spangled banner, beefing has captured much of our attention. Patriotism can be veiled as emotional manipulation. Many blindly align themselves to a red, white, and blue striped rag simply from symbolism. Francis Scott Key, the songwriter, observed a battle firsthand where the flag was flying. However, he was fully immersed in a war and highly charged at the time. What did he mean when he penned it? What did Francis […]

Black Love and Our Fascination with the Obamas

There is a dearth of’ Black’ Love stories.  The Obamas “Southside”, is a Hollywood tale chosen for people to celebrate. It’s dressed up for urban appeal with the integration of the  ‘southside’ designation. It’s almost akin to spending a smidgen of attention on the sister with shattered ‘self – esteem’. You’ve bought her. Hook, line, and sinker. She believes in you. You represent her dreams.  Backhanded scraps are a distraction. Simply for entertainment. Having full […]

Expectations and Greater Growth

   Expectations. Some of us have none. But most don’t have awareness of the ones they have. Plenty of us have too many expectations. Sometimes our wants cloud our thoughts. There will always be needs. When deciphering between necessity and wish, things can get complicated. Life is to be lived. It’s natural to share. Yet, it takes an unbelievable amount of effort to make a shared existence happen. We didn’t think it could. But, sometimes […]

Birth of a Nation’s Nate Parker is a “Rapist” now? Ok, Amerikkka

Birth of a Nation… Nate Parker… Nat Turner… RAPE… I was waiting for something like this to happen. When I  learned  that actor/director Nate Parker wrote, directed, produced, and starred in a film about Nat Turner “Birth of a Nation“,  I thought: “Wow, I am going to make it my business to view this film”. We don’t have a solid selection of movies created for us by us that tell stories of our strength. There […]

BOBBIN @ Botanical Bliss

Botanical Bliss is everything that you want in a natural beauty product line.  The products are pure. There are no harsh chemicals or parbeans, and a sista by the name of Donetta Bacon made it. Just the brand itself is a testament to the magic of black women… I am more than happy to write about this company. I always say that black women are different. We are special. We are wired in a magnificent […]

My “Nigga”, My “GOD”.

My nigga. Such fuss over a word…”Nigga” is a word I use. “Nigga” is a word I will continue to use. The talk of banning the word is an emotional argument I never understood. Sticks and stones, right? It happened in rural southern Georgia, I remember riding bikes with my cousin past the nearest house. This is on a dirt road, you know: Dusty shack raised on brick stilts and slats. A pale Klan padawan […]

Why the Roots Remake is some Bull$h!t

America truly cares to show how little respect they have for black people, or “African Americans” as some lames chose as a name. They insult us by remaking the classic: Roots by Alex Haley. If America was truly interested in honoring a ‘black plight’ in America, they would have just digitally remastered it; not remake it. I am bothered on a totally different level. I don’t know what’s worse: the fact that they actually did […]

Why I stopped calling my girlfriends “Bitch”

“Bitch”. It isn’t cute… It isn’t uplifting or flattering. It is actually, pretty degrading. I would say that I grew out of using the ‘B’ word as a term of endearment. However, there are women who are older than me who use the term “bitch” quite loosely. I am forced to think this is an issue that is rooted more towards self image, disregard for self respect, and no love. When I speak this word, […]

Worthy Woman Waves

A man behaves a certain way when he has a worthy woman in his life. Once he has this exposure, the growth will show. This will lead to a change. Life will never be the same. There is so much we can attain. Many view the deferring to a woman’s wishes as weak. Being the quality complement is key. Proper understanding of a woman’s energy is wisdom. Learning to work with the ebb and flow […]